The Good and Bad of Catholic Schools

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Chronicle is a local public interest television show that's been on the air at Boston's WCVB since 1982.  They recently devoted an entire broadcast to the subject of Catholic schools and it was surprisingly positive.

One interview featured Tom Nunan (pictured), the current president of Bishop Fenwick High School and he made the case that a parochial education is more relevant than ever.  He stated that in a world where many students face alienation and isolation Catholic schools can provide “an authentic community, a real sense of belonging and a place where you can feel at home.”

Also discussed during the half hour show was the pandemic's impact.  Eleven schools within the Boston Archdiocese closed for good as a result of the virus, but the program made the case that Catholic schools responded better to safety protocols that were put in place and resumed in-person learning much earlier than many pubic schools.  This created huge interest in enrollment from parents and students who were eager to get back into the classroom.  Unfortunately, with pre-pandemic numbers already dwindling, this surge did not do much to increase overall enrollment.

One interviewee stated that many parents don't just want their children to receive a good education, they want them to become better people and a Catholic school's faith-based learning can provide that.  A few now-thriving disadvantaged students were also profiled along with the Catholic Schools Foundation, an organization that helps provide financial assistance to those who can't cover tuition.  When a Catholic school education is at its best, it's a beautiful thing.  Unfortunately, there's another side to all of this that undermines the lofty goals so many spoke about on Chronicle.

From my own experiences at Bishop Fenwick, I found none of what Tom Nunan was talking about.  I sincerely hope things have changed for the better at that institution from where they were a few decades ago because all I found at the school was alienation and isolation.  Catholic schools can be very cliquey, hypocritical and elitist.  One student interviewed on Chronicle said the first time she was ever called the “n-word” was by a fellow student at Bishop Fenwick.  

Often, Catholic schools will place a huge emphasis on educational greatness or athletic greatness at the expense of moral greatness.  Sometimes this strategy works.  A good number of my fellow classmates in high school were only there to get an educational advantage over their public school counterparts.  Their parents really didn't care about the Church's morals and the students themselves absolutely loathed what the Church stood for but that diploma was an important key to unlock greater secular success.

It's odd that some Catholic schools seem to be more about prestige and sports than morality.  I'm reminded of how many locals simply refer to the all-boys St. John's Preparatory School in Danvers, MA as “the prep” even though there are other schools in the greater Boston area with the word “preparatory” in their names.  When someone close to me attended that institution many years ago, I could see how snobby he and his fellow classmates became and how engaging in reckless and / or self-destructive behavior was par for the course.   

Maybe this approach is the future for the Catholic schools that will survive into the next century or maybe forsaking the Church's values will only quicken the pace of their demise.

Sadly, Bishop Fenwick made the news recently...for all the wrong reasons.  The Massachusetts Interscholastic Athletic Association harshly punished the high school for alleged inconsistencies regarding one student's application to play baseball.  As a result, all sports have been suspended from state playoffs for 2023-2024.  In a case that many find confusing, the MIAA alleges Fenwick engaged in a pattern of deception while the school maintains these inconsistencies were a result of confusion and ignorance regarding the complicated application process.  School leaders were in the hot seat as they fielded questions from angry and bewildered parents during a discussion about the controversy in the auditorium. (See this blog entry's photo.)

Fenwick has vowed to appeal the decision with no guarantee the MIAA will even consider what the school has to say.  In the meantime, all student athletes are paying the price for something they had no part in.  I think we need to expect better from the Catholic educational system.

When Chickens Come Home To Roost

June of 2023 was a not a good month for Catholic schools in the greater Boston area.

In February, St. Joseph Preparatory High School announced their doors would close for good at the end of the school year.  The Brighton, MA institution had occupied the former Mount Saint Joseph Academy and was the result of a 2012 merger between that school and Trinity Catholic High School of Newton, MA which was founded in 1894.

In March, the all-girls Mount Alvernia High School (also in Newton) announced plans to close and merge with Fontbonne Academy, another all-girls Catholic school in Milton, MA.  The Missionary Franciscan Sisters who ran Mount Alvernia said operations had become unsustainable because they were no longer able to continue living on the property.  According to a National Catholic Register article, one board member who later became its chair said the possibility of closing the school "was never once discussed" during her tenure and she accused the sisters of making their decision in secret.

Students of the Cambridge Matignon School were also blindsided when the 76 year old Cambridge, MA institution announced their closure just one month before graduation.  In all of these cases, the story seems to be the same.  Insurmountable financial difficulties coupled with declining enrollment led to each school's demise.

Many years ago, my niece's Catholic school enjoyed huge crowds during their annual Christmas pageant.  After just a few years, the place announced its closure as well.  Apparently enrollment hadn't dipped...it collapsed and she graduated with only six other students in her class.  The principal tried to put a positive spin on things by saying for over a hundred years the institution's mission was to educate young minds and now that mission was complete.  We were told to be proud of what the school had accomplished over the past century but such words did little to abate the feeling that something great was being lost.

Sometimes when Catholic schools close, failure is painted as an exciting opportunity.  That's how Father Mark Mahoney portrayed the 2016 closure of Saint Mary's School in Beverly, MA.  Under his leadership, that institution merged with the nearby Saint John the Evangelist School and was renamed The Saints Academy.  There was talk of closing St. Mary's School as early as 1975 but when Father Richard Johnson became pastor a year later, he set up Beano games and took other steps that helped stabilize the school's finances and enrollment.  A lot of good people worked so hard over the years to keep that place going.  Today, the building continues to sit empty.

Even though this blog has been critical of my experiences at Bishop Fenwick High School, I still feel these institutions are far too important to lose.  The parochial educational system offers the Church one of the greatest opportunities to renew itself.  Not only are young minds exposed to important character-shaping values, they can also find an oasis from the moral relativism that plagues modern society.

While there are many reasons for these school closures, it certainly doesn't help when young people seeking to increase their faith discover their parishes offer them no place at the table.  It also doesn't help when singles who willingly embrace the Church's teachings are left to fend for themselves and never get the chance to marry and have the children who would attend Catholic schools in the first place.

The Cost of Failure / The Price of Success

Last month saw the passing of tabloid talk show host Jerry Springer at the age of 79 from pancreatic cancer. While most news stories on the subject covered (in great detail) the trashy talk show that made him a household name, only a few mentioned the program's humble beginnings.

When the Jerry Springer show debuted in the autumn of 1991, it actually featured serious topics on news, politics, and current events. That's not surprising given the host's background as a reporter and politician. In fact, the program's signature “Final Thought” ending segment allowed for thoughtful commentary on some of the most complex issues of the day. This is something I remember well from around that time.

With ratings tanking, a choice had to be made. Retool the Jerry Springer show into something that would grab audiences or face certain cancellation. The host and producers chose the former rather than the latter and the rest is history. For the next two decades the program remained on the airwaves making Jerry Springer one very rich and famous individual...but at what cost?

For a guy who loved talking politics, all meaningful discussions on his show quickly disappeared. Even the Final Thought segment became irrelevant. (Seriously, what real insight could Jerry give his viewers about that lesbian stripper threesome gone wrong?) As his program devolved into a moral garbage sideshow, Jerry Springer himself tended to stay on the sidelines during taping as not to get caught up in the fights among guests that would frequently break out. Despite Mr. Springer's tag line, “Take care of yourselves and each other” it seemed like he was profiting off of lots of people who did not take care of themselves or each other.

Mr. Springer's death had me thinking of a sermon I heard at St. Mary's in Beverly many years ago. Our priest asked what price we were willing to pay to live a moral life in keeping with the Church's values? Would we always strive to do the right thing or would we turn a blind eye to immortality in our pursuit of material wealth and status? He then used the example of a nameless Catholic man who worked as a scientist at a bioengineering lab and made a very comfortable living for himself and his family. One day he realizes that his company is using aborted fetal tissue in its experiments. Does the man take a moral stand and quit his job or does he simply do nothing? Taking the moral stand would certainly upend that comfortable life he enjoyed and it would also cause a heck of a lot of stress for both himself and his family. Our priest continued by saying there were times when standing up for your beliefs invited failure but “it's better to be a failure in this world and a success in the next one than the other way around.”

He then pointed to the crucifix and added, “In many ways, that's a symbol of failure.” The sermon was so moving, it stayed with me after all these years and I sometimes think about it during some of caregiving's most difficult moments. Living at home and working a dead-end job in order to care for my elderly mother certainly hasn't brought me wealth and fame (...or a girlfriend) but it's where I need to be right now because she has no one else in her life.

There's no shortage of Catholics who ignore this advice, however. Maybe it's the guy in the Catholic Match chat room who talks about stocks, 401Ks, and wealth management more than he does about giving to the poor. Maybe it's the woman who places moral character far below having a successful professional career in her prerequisites for a husband. Maybe it's the Catholic politician who betrays his beliefs to become well-liked. In the face of failure, we all must make decisions on how strong our moral compass really is.

Some say Jerry Springer sold out for ratings. In interviews, he didn't seem too proud of his show's legacy. Instead, he made light of it much like the Hollywood scream queen who is eternally embarrassed by her part in a cheesy slasher flick but won't say anything for fear of alienating her fanbase. Mocking his critics, he started introducing the program as “the worst television show of all time.” No doubt there were viewers who saw value in the Jerry Springer show, but speaking from personal experience, I knew a few die-hard fans who would have been much better off reading a book or going for a walk instead.

There were certainly winners from Mr. Springer's embrace of the lowest common denominator. Those producers who wanted higher ratings got what they wanted. Steve Wilkos, a security guard on the program, also gained fame and eventually became the host of his own talk show in 2007. Many others who worked behind the scenes earned a steady paycheck but at what price?

I think part of the Jerry Springer show's legacy is that it taught us to take pleasure in other people's misery like never before. Grievances guests aired weren't a big deal as long as the spectacle they provided was entertaining enough. Whether or not Jerry Springer himself becomes as well-remembered as other purveyors of schlock and shock like Joe Pyne (Who?) or Morton Downey Jr. (Who?) remains to be seen.

A Look And A Look Back

(From the files of Catholic Match...)

When I joined Catholic Match in 2018, I made sure to create a very thorough profile with good quality photos. Listed were many of my hobbies and tastes as well as a brief explanation of my ongoing faith journey. This included a few of the problems I had with the Church just to let prospective suitors know where I stood on some issues before they reached out to me. I thought my profile was long enough to give people an accurate snapshot of my life while being short enough to be interesting.

Since this was my first foray into the world of online dating, I didn't know how some of the features on Catholic Match worked. For instance, when you clicked on someone's profile, that person got a notification saying you had checked them out. This was the website's way of trying to encourage more interactions that could lead to dating and marriage but it caused its fair share of problems early on in my Catholic Match membership.

One of the first profiles I clicked on was a woman from the East Coast who I thought was reasonably attractive. A closer look at her profile revealed she was extremely devout and didn't have much in common with me. Plus, I thought some of her other photos weren't that flattering. It was a hard pass. Unfortunately, my simple look at her profile caused her to look back at mine. She quickly sent a message that came on way too strong. Not only did she think we were a great match, she stated that I was the answer to her prayers. Gulp...no pressure.

I thanked her for checking out my profile but said I didn't think we had too much in common when it came to some pretty important things. I also wondered if she had taken the time to read my profile all the way through. After a few more awkward messages, I wished her well in her search but firmly declined to take things further.  This experience rattled me and after a few more incidents like this, I put a lot of thought into whose profile I clicked on.

When scrolling through profiles on Catholic Match, all I had to look at was a single photograph with the person's first name, age and location.  This told me nothing about who they were as a human being so using the website tended to be based on physical attraction only.  There were times when I'd click on an attractive profile photo only to see a lot of red flags and deal-breakers listed in the text of their actual profiles.  Maybe she was too demanding or materialistic.  Perhaps she had unrealistic expectations for her future husband.  Whatever the case might have been, instead of just moving onto the next profile, Catholic Match implied some sort of interest on my part by telling this woman I had just looked at her profile.  On a few occasions, these notifications prompted women I had no interest in to reach out to me.  Ugh!

It was the ever-present fear of the “look back” that reduced the number of profiles I checked out. This was counterproductive when it came to online dating because my fellow men on Catholic Match always gave the advice to click on as many profiles as you could and send lots of messages because finding a spouse online was a “numbers game” in their words. Since the response rate was typically low, the more interactions you had on Catholic Match the better your chances of finding a wife...or so the theory went.

There were some profiles I wanted to click on because I was simply curious about the person's photo not because I wanted to date them. Maybe they were holding a cute dog or featured a background location that seemed interesting. Thanks to those notifications, a look might invite a conversation that I just didn't want to have so I usually opted to move on.

Given my circumstances as a caregiver, long distance relationships were problematic so I had to think very carefully about clicking on those profiles from foreign countries. Still, I could not believe the number of women from the Philippines who reached out to me on their own. Then there were those absolute train wreck profile photos that I would have loved clicking on just to see how bad their profiles really were but with the possibility of a look back looming, it just wasn't worth it.

Eventually, I discovered exceptions to these notifications. If you clicked on the profile of a member of the same sex, they would not be notified. On a few occasions, women who were much younger than me either sent me messages or “liked” my profile without triggering a notification that they had checked me out. I later learned from a discussion in the forums that members of the opposite sex outside your particular age range were also exempt. As one person on the forum explained, this was done to prevent young women from being creeped out by all the old men who were checking out their profiles. So good news all you creepers! You can check out the young women of Catholic Match and they will be none the wiser. Of course, I found it odd these rules and exceptions weren't clearly spelled out when you first joined the dating website. Maybe it was buried in the fine print?

Free members could not see who viewed their profiles but they still received a notification that someone had checked them out.  If they wanted to know who it was, they'd have to pay for full membership.  With no way to distinguish free members from paying members, I couldn't tell who saw what.  After a while, the number of look-backs dropped significantly and this had me wondering if the website was becoming a ghost town.

The profile notification system might have been created with only the best of intentions, but it was doing me more harm than good. In the end, it seemed pretty useless to begin with because as the years went by, I just didn't find very many interesting profiles to click on in the first place.

Iraq...Twenty Years Ago

This month marked 20 years since the start of the Iraq War and while the major newspapers all had articles on the subject, I noticed the nightly television news skipped coverage of this grim anniversary.

At the start of 2003, the American people were still living in the shadow of September 11th terrorist attacks.  Our sadness was unimaginable, our anger was raw and our fear of another attack was palatable.  We turned to our country's leaders for comfort and we were in no mood to hear duplicitous talk from the Middle East.  This climate of emotional vulnerability often gets overlooked when discussing Iraq, but in my humble opinion, it made the path to war much easier.

Iraqi dissident Ahmed Chalabi made the rounds in the media to say the United States would be welcomed as liberators but he along with the information he provided on a supposed link Saddam Hussein had to Al-Qaeda would later be discredited.

Then were were the faulty reports that United Nations sanctions were killing hundreds of thousands of Iraqi children.  This erroneous information was used by Osama Bin Laden to justify terrorism against America.  Liberals used it to criticize government policy and conservatives used it to stoke the fires of war.

To be clear, George W. Bush never blamed Iraq for the 9-11 attacks BUT he was no longer going to wait for potential threats to become real.  From the way the government described Saddam Hussein's weapons of mass destruction program in the months leading up to the invasion, the threat from Iraq was becoming all too real.  In February of 2003, Secretary of State Colin Powell, who many saw as a voice of reason, justified a possible invasion in front of the United Nations Security Council by giving testimony on Iraq's WMD program.  (The year before, he had actually cautioned the President on an invasion saying, "If you break it, you own it.")

Many of us were fooled because we wanted to believe our leaders were honest and competent.  Even the late night comedians jumped on the WMD bandwagon with jokes about Iraq.  I won't soon forget a skit from Conan O'Brien that featured Saddam Hussein disguising three missiles as his children.

When French and German leaders announced their opposition to the war, The New York Post ran an infamous “Axis of Weasels” headline.  After France threatened to veto any resolution that mandated an invasion, a backlash against the French emerged with some restaurants renaming French Fries “Freedom Fries.”  The only place in my travels that I actually saw do this was The Clam Box of Ipswich, MA.

Despite the drumbeat of war, many people weren't fooled and protests erupted throughout the country and the world.  From around this time, I vaguely remember hearing a liberal guest host filling in on the usually conservative WRKO talk radio and for one broadcast, she brought with her actress Janeane Garofalo.  They laid out good reasons why an invasion of Iraq would be disastrous and much of what they said turned out to be true but at the time, the audience wasn't having any of it.  A divisiveness erupted in society and the good will President Bush enjoyed after 9-11 seemed to quickly disappear.

Operation Iraqi Freedom began with “shock and awe” style decapitation airstrikes that sometimes claimed the lives of innocent people.  I am haunted by an image that appeared in the local newspaper just before the war began of a father enjoying pizza with his family at a restaurant in Baghdad called Pizza Hot.  Did they survive such bombings?
 
When the ground war started, it just felt wrong to me on a visceral level and despite all the rhetoric and bluster, I couldn't believe it was actually happening.  I recall how embedded reporter David Bloom gave some of the first reports from the battlefield but spending many hours in cramped armored vehicles with the hot sun caused a blood clot that claimed his life at the age of 39.

We soon heard heroic stories of Private First Class Jessica Lynch who had been captured when her convoy was ambushed but as with many aspects of the Iraq War, the tales of how she single-handedly fought off the enemy turned out to be grossly exaggerated.

In May of 2003, President Bush announced an end to major combat operations in Iraq while a banner hung in the background that said: Mission Accomplished.  This would come back to haunt him because an insurgency caused many more causalities and dragged the war on for another 8 years.  Things hit home for us when Swampscott native Jennifer Harris was killed when her helicopter crashed with all those on board lost.  The military tried blaming it on a mechanical failure until a video surfaced of her aircraft being shot down.  The American public saw a lot of gore in the news during those bloody years and some of the war's biggest supporters were starting to wonder if it was worth such a staggering toll.

Conservative talk show host Glenn Beck would admit in 2014 that the liberals got it right when they opposed the war in Iraq...but apologies don't bring back the dead.  I lost all respect for President Bush years before that when he joked about not finding WMDs at a fancy press corps banquet.  Early support for the war likely cost Hillary Clinton the presidency because a weary public turned to the candidate who had opposed the invasion from the get go, Barack Obama.

The invasion of Iraq not only distracted from the war effort in Afghanistan, it made terrorists smarter and more effective as the lessons learned in one battlefield were brought over to another.  We eventually saw the emergence of ISIS and with it, more death and destruction on a scale we had never seen before.  In 2003, Egyptian President Hosni Mubarak had warned the invasion of Iraq would create 100 Bin Ladens.

To this day I still hear some people say the war was all about getting revenge on Saddam Hussein for the 1993 attempted assassination of George H. W. Bush.  Whatever the major goals for the Iraq War were, it's safe to say that few of them were met outside of "regime change." The United States also lost some of its credibility as a result of this conflict especially when trying to take the moral high ground regarding the Russian invasion of Ukraine.

It's unfortunate the nightly news networks punted on covering the 20th anniversary of the Iraq War because there are hard lessons to be learned from it....lessons that can't be properly explored in our current culture of soundbites.

Another Valentine's Day Come and Gone

Aside from weddings, baby showers or kids' birthday parties, no other occasion brings more unwanted attention to my singlehood than Valentine's Day.  With so many outward expressions of romantic love to be had, the holiday is made to stir up feelings of loneliness in those of us who are unattached.

When I had my own college radio show several years ago, I'd “celebrate” February 14th by playing songs about breakups and heartache.  It was a lot of fun and going against the grain like that made Valentine's Day bearable.  Without an outlet to mock the holiday and vent my frustrations, Valentine's Day has become as annoying as ever.

This February 14th, I found myself taking my mother to the eye doctor for her routine check up.  Despite Covid restrictions that limited the number of patients that could be seen at one time, the waiting room was packed...with old people.  It was clear to me that the doctors violated their own policies in order to squeeze everyone in.  So instead of maintaining social distancing, I was seated right next to a few old ladies.  One was an immigrant from Israel and she decided to strike up a conversation by asking about the origins of Valentine's Day.  When I told her about it, others joined in the discussion.  Just my luck there were never any women my age to talk to!  After waiting two hours in a cramped corner, the doctor finally saw my mother.  Since I had just come off a third-shift job, I was exhausted.  This was not how I wanted to spend the holiday.

When I started dating a woman from Catholic Match in late 2022, I thought that maybe...just maybe I would finally have a girlfriend by the time February 14th rolled around.  I even briefly imagined how we would spend the day.  A local thrift store had an attractive three pane picture frame for sale so I decided to buy it hoping to place three different photos of her inside of it.  Well, I suspected dating this woman was too good to be true and she dumped me before I could even take three photos of her.  Now the picture frame sits empty on my bedroom floor and with nothing to show, it's symbolic of my many years as a dateless wonder.

When discussing Valentine's Day with one of my married friends, he takes a more intellectual approach by saying that the date of February 14th really means nothing to him or his wife and they tend to focus more on their wedding anniversary as the big day to express romance.  By doing so, he avoids those special Valentine's Day menus at restaurants which tend to be overrated and not worth the extra money.  In fact, he has an acquaintance who celebrates Valentine's Day either the day before or after the 14th just to avoid being price-gouged.  He must have a very understanding wife because many spouses wouldn't appreciate that kind of frugality.

At one time, the holiday was actually called Saint Valentine's Day but as we have seen with Christmas and Easter, capitalism tends to downplay the religious roots of such days to make the pursuit of the almighty dollar easier and more acceptable.  At work, I stumbled across a memo from our regional manager and he described the holiday as an opportunity for record breaking sales adding, “Go Big! Win the day!  All profit here!”  This is the same person who routinely cancels employee raises that our store manager submits for approval.
 
I don't receive the Catholic television station EWTN at home but I recently had the chance to check it out in the waiting room of yet another doctor's office.  A talk show whose name escapes me was discussing how unrealistic people's expectations were for Valentine's Day.  The female host admitted a lot of women have fantastically high expectations for romance and love that few men can live up to.  She cautioned the audience against seeing love through the eyes of Hollywood movies because real relationships had their fair share of ebbs and flows.

I always thought Valentine's Day was a good barometer for a couple in love.  Are you comfortable enough with each other to get a little sappy on one particular day out of the year?  Would your significant other be too demanding of gifts and dinner or would they appreciate your romantic gestures even if they fell a little short?  Are you too jaded to express signs of affection?  The holiday's true meaning might be corrupted but that doesn't mean we have to buy into capitalism's exploitation of it.  Perhaps a quiet dinner at home or at a restaurant that doesn't make a big deal of the holiday.  Maybe get your partner a homemade gift or something nice that didn't break the bank?  Unfortunately, the chance to test these theories slipped by me once again since I spent my 49th year on this earth never knowing what it would be like to have someone to love on Valentine's Day.

"There's Always Catholic Match..."

That's what one reader jokingly wrote in the comments section of this blog in 2018.  Joining Catholic Match had been on my mind for quite some time back then, but I just didn't think my life was in a good enough place to start using that particular website.

I first heard about Catholic Match from a friend many years ago and decided to check it out shortly thereafter.  At the time, the website allowed people to preview a handful of profile photos if you checked a box that identified your gender.  If you wanted to see more photos beyond these or if you wanted to click on an individual profile, you needed to create an account.  I thought some of the women weren't bad looking and seeing these teaser profile photos only made me dwell on what possibilities were out there.

Every once in a great while, I'd see ads for Catholic Match in different church bulletins and that had me thinking about what I was missing by not joining.  The website seemed to take its mission of helping singles into the vocation of matrimony seriously and in a comparison of other dating websites, Catholic Match boasted their members were free to marry.  After a long stint of unemployment ended, I decided to finally purchase a six month membership.    

To say my expectations for this website were huge is an understatement but I would soon find out a lot of my preconceived notions about Catholic Match and online dating in general were inaccurate.  Where those free Catholic dating websites were filled with sloppy profiles and terrible photos, I thought the women of Catholic Match were in it to win it.  I expected to see tons of well thought out profiles with great photos.  This was not the case and those blurry, badly lit, sunglasses wearing images plagued this website too.  “How could people pay all that money and then not put in much of an effort?” I thought.  Only later did I realize Catholic Match offered free memberships in addition to paid subscriptions but users had no way of telling one from the other.

Before joining Catholic Match, I tried to imagine what kind of women would be on this website.  Maybe they were reasonably attractive and kindhearted but unsuccessful in love not because of some antisocial personality quirks but because they just couldn't find a guy to fall in love with.  Maybe some of them had gone to all-girls schools for many years and were a bit sheltered.  Maybe they held true to the Church's teachings on premarital sex and found themselves to be outcasts in a secular and sex-crazed world.

Well, despite the website saying its members were free to marry, I soon found out Catholic Match allowed divorced people to join the site...but they could only use it for fellowship and friendship, not dating.  That kind of defeats the purpose of a DATING WEBSITE, doesn't it?  So instead of finding lots of dateless wonders like me, I had to weed out a large number of women who couldn't even go on a date without it being a sin.
 
At the time, Catholic Match featured 7 faith questions about specific Church teachings and users had to answer whether or not they agreed with them.  A heck of a lot of people did not accept the Church's teaching on premarital sex so instead of finding that inexperienced woman of my dreams, I found plenty of ladies who had been around the block and were proud of it.
 
The website also had two useful features that were removed shortly after I joined.  One let people know when you logged in last and this helped to separate active profiles from inactive ones.  Unfortunately, some members were using this information to stalk other members so the feature was eliminated for safety reasons.  The other feature I liked allowed people to search profiles by interests and hobbies.  Catholic Match staff felt it limited members in their quest to find a spouse, however, so they got rid of it.  During my time using that specialized search feature, I found very few women who shared my passions.

Within a few hours of purchasing my subscription, I received a message from a 60+ year old woman from Mexico welcoming me to the website.  This was not a good sign.  Another curiosity about Catholic Match was the large number of women from foreign countries, particularity the Philippines.  Unfortunately, the amount of local women on the site left a lot to be desired.  With almost 2 million people in the Archdioceses of Boston alone, I wondered where the heck everyone was.
 
Still, I looked on the bright side of things and put my faith in God that “the right one” would eventually come long.  After all, there were so many Catholic Match success stories featured on the website with some accounts bordering on the miraculous. 

Well, the world's largest Catholic dating website may have worked out for some but it didn't work for me.  After 4 years and 6 months, I decided against renewing my paid subscription.  Being on the site was an interesting experience and one that I will probably blog about in the near future.  I certainly won't discourage anyone from joining Catholic Match because it really could be how you find your significant other.  Unfortunately for me, my time on the website seemed to be a big waste of time.